Friday, January 23, 2015

A Boy and His Dog


Joseph,

Do you remember all the times you begged us for a dog?  You were relentless, as you usually are.  You wanted to work at the animal shelter just to work with dogs.  You told me of all the things you would do with your dog if you had one.  You were going to walk your dog, feed your dog, play with your dog, train your dog, sleep with your dog.  Do you remember?

By the grace of God, we got you the best dog in the world.  She is everything you ever wanted.  She is big.  She is smart.  She is loyal.  She is gentle.  She is trained.  She is amazing!  And of all the family members, you are the last to appreciate this. 

So do you remember last night?  Do you remember going to bed without telling us goodnight?  Going to bed early again due to your disrespect?  It has been the same thing for the last two nights.  But what made last night so sad is the way you came home from school.

You were so happy about your day at school.  At wrestling practice you had wrestled Z and won!  You were so proud!  You were full of stories, smiles, laughter.  After dinner, as always, everyone had chores and homework.  It was your easy night of chores.  I told you to make sure your room was clean, pick up trash on the stairs, and take the dog for a walk.

And the sweet, happy, smiling boy went away.  You got angry because you could not watch T.V. until you took the dog outside.  You thought it would be okay to just let her run around without a leash.  You did not care that she could get run over or picked up by the pound.  You just did not feel like finding the leash, putting it on her, and walking her outside for, at the most, 5 minutes.  You let her out anyway.  She ran.  You told someone else to go get her.  We told YOU to go get her.  Then you let your mouth start.  You said this was all stupid.  She was fine.  You said I was getting worked up and over reacting.  You got sent to bed.  And I sat here wondering why.  Why does that happy little boy always have to go away?  Why do our happy evenings always have to end on such an unhappy note?  Was it really that hard to walk the dog?

So today is Friday.  To say I'm dreading the next three days is an understatement.  What you don't know is how sick I've been lately.  How hard I am trying to make you happy.  How very much I love you!  Please try.  Put the effort out.  Love your siblings.  Love the life that God has blessed you with.  And love your dog!

Love,
Mom

2 comments:

  1. How's this-
    The world doesn't see his goodness?? Neither do you. Who told you it was ok to berate your child in such a public way? What is wrong with you??? You need some parenting lessons. I feel so sorry for your son. His autism may keep him from understanding your lack of mothering skills, but if you have any other children without autism, be prepared; they will see the humiliation you have heaped on this precious child and have no respect for you. I wouldn't be surprised if they left home at 18 and never came back. So please, if he's your only child, please don't have anymore. Someone should report you for psychological and emotional abuse.
    Btw I just happened upon this blog post and it alone has convinced me that I don't want to read anymore.

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  2. Hi Mama! I linked to your blog from a parenting special needs group. Boy, do I ever "get" this! It can be so frustrating to know our children can do better, but they are stubborn sometimes. Here is hoping for better days, for all of us. I'm backtracking through your blog now- we have some parallels! Hang in there, Mama! -Julie

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